A Tokyo Wedding Pt 8 ...The Real Party Goes On...

Well, this is it. The last post. Now I'm sure that you're all wondering .... why so many pictures? Well, the first reason is that I took a ####load of pictures. The second reason is that unlike my normal photos, I've been working pretty hard to clean these up... Photoshop has been working overtime.. something I might post about later. The third, and perhaps best reason (if they weren't good enough) is that whilst T-chan and L-kun have been away, I haven't really done much to write about. Stayed home, did lots of work, browsed lots of internet, had a few red-wines, and basically been very quiet.

But I digress. This post is really about the last big thing... the after-party-party. T-chan's parents had gone home (it's sort of tradition that the parents don't attend, to allow the young-un's some fun). They also took L-kun home as well... which meant T-chan and I could have our first night out together in a long time. Of course, when I say night out, I don't mean to suggest a late night. We, I hate to say it, were bushed.

The married couple were however, surprisingly chipper... although that might have something to do with the amount of alcohol consumed. Including by the photographer*hic* as well... 

Anyhow - we arrived fashioably late after having afternoon tea with S-chan's family (reads: lots of ice-cream for our brilliant young ring-bearer, L-kun, and coffees for the rest of us). By the time we arrived, the party had already begun in earnest. Now whilst there had been some videos before hand, and lots of photo montages (I can't help but think Team America here... but that's another story).... they brought out the real videos of family interviews. And they were fantastic (if I get hold of them, I will put them up).... I have to say, once again, Otousan was the star of the show... he's becoming quite the celebrity.

The other aspect of the night was the "question-and-answer"... this was the point where the husband and wife would have to ask a series of questions. Now... let's just say that as H-kun and S-chan had been at working at the same company for perhaps over 10 years together, there were a lot of questions concerning when they started going out together.... come'on... you can tell us.

Indeed - very cutting questions, that left the couple a little lost for words. Now I know the answer, but that, as they say in the classics, would be telling.... so let's just say that they gave an answer.

But the real business of the evening was to practice some more of that whole kissing thing... take one:

Hmmm - definite improvement on the earlier effort... no smiles of mock-horror from S-chan... good.... very good. But, that's how you might kiss your aunt... lets see the real thing... er... now... there may be minors watching... take two:

Ok... let's just leave it there... this is a no-adult-content blog after all (and we have to leave something to your imagination). Let's fast forward to the after-shot, where H-kun is being very reflective of the occasion... and thinking seriously about the institution of marriage... and all sorts of serious things.

Actually - he wasn't thinking about anything serious at all... because, not only was balloon-man (and a strange, balloon groupie) there this evening, we had another special guest appearance. This time from.... Aluminium-Man. He wrinkles, he crinkles, and he's even microwave safe! And apparently he was here to put the hard word on S-chan to see if she really, really wanted to marry H-kun (or something like that). To be honest, I was laughing so hard that I really wasn't paying attention to what was happening. I'm sure it was an ancient Japanese marriage ritual however... very culturally rich, the Japanese are.... a little mysterious though....

And S-chan seemed to be enjoy Aluminium-man's finer points a little too much.... hmmm... either that, or it could have been those suspender stockings (let's leave it there shall we).

The party was a great success, and there was lots of great food and drink to fill to the brim each and every one of the many guests... and it should be said that this party was quite a bit different to the formal reception that we had before. There were a lot more people, and the mood was quite a bit more raucous. It was a time to let the hair down, and also a time to say thank-you to all the well-wishers.... but above all, it was a time to enjoy and celebrate the marriage of these two wonderful people.

The recent time may have been a hard one for all people in Japan, following the horrible March 11th earthquake, yet that wasn't on assembled people's minds tonight. It was a happy, joyous time, and one that shows that love, like life and the flow of time, heals wounds and grounds us in the here-and-now in the prospect of a future. At this difficult time, two lives have come together, to share each other's happy times, as well as sad times. And we were so very happy that we could share it with them!

And what a party it was...Actually, after this, there was even another party for their closest friends.... the after-after-party party. Unfortunately, I have no photos to share of that... but my hat goes off to them. They really know how to get married!

Omedetou!

A Tokyo Wedding... Pt 7 Like a Breath of Fresh Air.

The penultimate post... and this was a little bit different. The weather had cleared up - enough for us to venture outside with the family and close friends for another series of photos. And to enjoy the gardens of the Hotel New Otani. The skies may be a little grey - but they say that makes for perfect photography (ok... that most probably matters if you know what your doing in the first place).

Actually, we didn't get to see much of the gardens - although L-kun was happy to explore (you can just make him out above). The gardens are quite well appreciated, and always draws a crowd on weekends - so finding a nice spot and waiting for people not to be overtly in frame was difficult. It's a good thing that H-kun and S-chan had already had their formal photos done in the garden prior to the day.... when there were less people and better weather.

I quite like this shot - reminds me of some 70's tv drama photo... they're the Avenging Couple, fighting crime on the streets and in the chapels. I'd watch that show.

S-chan's doing very well to keep herself going after a very long day (and it's only half finished). I don't know how they did it... but I'm sure they were looking forward to a break.

And H-kun looked on with sweet love in his eyes... I wonder what he was thinking of? Most probably having a good sleep. Weddings are always so exhausting... but so exciting too.

Well - that's a short post... to be honest, I was hoping to have taken more photos outside, but the problem with the Hotel New Otani is that they run multiple weddings simultaneously, and they allocate patches of fenced off garden for the couples... but one of those spots was directly in-front of ours, so for about 15 mins, all you could see in the background were tens of people milling around another wedding couple.

Actually - as T-chan and her parents had gone off to get out of their formal clothes, I suddenly realised that I didn't know where they were, or when they were going to be coming down. All I knew was to meet them at the front lobby. about 40mins later... they finally arrived (I'm  sure the hotel staff were wondering who the strange gaijin was with the camera standing around the lobby).

So - one more post to go... whew... this stuff is hard work, for you and me.

A Tokyo Wedding... Pt 6 The Relaxing Begins

Feeling much more relaxed, the couple indulge in some food and drink... actually, there's more than enough drink to be had for the couple, especially the groom who is plied with alcohol during the entire reception from his friends.

Meanwhile, S-chan's friend plays a beautiful piano piece that captivates the room. Music is an integral part of the reception, and often there will even be karaoke machines involved. This is a party after all.

And there's plenty of celebration going on...and plenty of smiles...

One of the treats is that H-kun and S-chan had a number of videos made up. They used to work together in a very prominent Japanese company, and there's plenty of talented friends. One of the videos was a "re-enactment" of their betrothal. They also had a number of video interviews with their families. And a special appearance from a friend over in New York. Overall, it was a multimedia extravaganza... and T-chan's parents loved the video. It must be strange, seeing their son in perhaps a slightly different light.

And speaking of special appearances... there was even an appearance from the magical bouncing balloon man - aka H-kun's former junior, who momentarily stole the show. As I mentioned, Japanese receptions can be quite a production, and there's always a lot of humourous twists and turns.

Here H-kun was asked to hold a decoration (called a kusudama) whilst the above-mentioned ballon-man tried to jump and catch the release string - not an easy task when you don't have arms or hands. After quite a few tries (accompanied by the claps and cheers of the audience) he managed to grab the string between his teeth and pulled... "Gokekkon"... Marriage.

And this of course was merely a prelude to the real purpose - to cheer on H-kun to complete the contract with a kiss, which had (in Japanese-style) been missing so far. Now - one thing you must understand, Japanese of their generation and older are not necessarily into a lot of public display of affection (at least not outside their close friends)... and indeed this was a rare event.

And the effect was somewhat mixed. H-kun reckon's he got a strike, but S-chan's face says it was more like a ball. Not out!.

Now the last hurrah for the formal reception. The speeches. It is traditional for the bride to read out a letter, written to her parents whom she is now leaving officially. These speeches are solemn occasions and are often  real tear-jerker moments, where the daughter thanks her parents for all they have done. Even H-kun has sobered up after the kissing...

Now I have to admit, I was somewhat taken aback when instead of S-chan's parents breaking out into tears, Okaasan and Otousan were the ones that first broke the line, and let the tears run freely. Actually, the whole day was full of tears of joy from them.

Before long, S-chan's proud parents also teared up. It is always a special moment, as their daughter passes from their household into H-kun's. It may be a throwback to older times, but it's meaningful at a deep level.

And then the bride and groom present the parents with special gifts of thanks.

Finally, it's up to Otousan to give the formal speech - welcoming the couple, and S-chan in particular... and unforutnately, Otousan didn't quite make it through before he burst into tears again. It was so enjoyable being part of this very happy moment, but before you knew it, it the formal reception was over.

But this story doesn't quite end there....there's two more posts to go... whew!

A Tokyo Wedding... Pt 5 The Return

After a suitably long, or was it short time, the proud couple make a triumphant return to the room, once again accompanied by spotlight. This time however, the mood is much more celebratory, and the couple are clearly more relaxed. And yes... that means costume change. It's actually quite common for the newly married couple to change 2-5 times throughout the day, into a variety of different costumes. One example is the replacing of the white kimono for a much more brightly coloured one (the last time to wear this, as a now married woman of higher respectability and reserve). This process is known as o-ironaoshi, or changing colours.Unfortunately (or fortunately for them), they decided to go essentially with the two costumes.

Unlike before, where they spent most of their time seated at the front table (perhaps a good thing for poor S-chan in her kimono), now they were free to move about, going to each and every table to greet their guests.

And here we see a slightly different view, especially of S-chan's gorgeous dress. The thing to note that for the remainder of the reception, she was followed around religiously by a dress-attendant who made sure that the dress was hanging just perfectly. It's perhaps a very Japanese thing, but to be honest if I was S-chan, I'd be a little bothered by having someone semi-permanently stuck to my bottom.

I like this photo... not because it's well posed, or even well constructured... but I love the moment when the new husband of wife suddenly have to work out the tangle of arms... now is it he over she, or the other way around? Sometimes it's the simple things that can be the hardest to adjust to.

Mission accomplished - now it's time to celebrate (boys will be boys).

A photo with S-chan's family. Slightly more reserved, and a bit less air-clapping going on... but no less excited and happy.

Cutting the cake... actually, we couldn't work out to start off with if this was real cake... when it's that large, it's hard to do much "cutting"... but as is often the case, the cutting is really for show. The real cutting's either already been done, or left to the professionals. We enjoyed the cake later on...

Now the moment that we'd been fearing... the big moment for L-kun. The ring ceremony. Of course, removed from the Christian wedding culture/history (although there are many faux Christian weddings in Japan nowadays), the exchange of rings takes on a slightly different feel. We actually were caught off guard a little timing-wise. We were enjoying ourselves, when all of a sudden L-kun was given the rings and gently guided (thanks to one of the hotel staff) through the crowd. Actually, he really didn't need any help at all... he knew what he had to do.

It's been a while since we've been to a wedding here in Australia, but these sorts of ring pillows (and bears) are quite popular in Japan... and indeed Okaasan made the bears and the pillow (nicely done!). I think they're a brilliant idea - but perhaps that's because we had something very similar at our own wedding.

And the thing that surprised me most (and still makes me all warm and oozy on the inside) is that L-kun walked with such a gentle seriousness. I've never seen this side of him before now. And it was truly AWESOME!

And before you knew it, the package was delivered to the target. Bullseye. A happy couple accept the ring pillow.... with a "omedetou!" (congratulations) from L-kun to cap it all off.

I was so proud of our little trooper at that moment. After starting the day off with a bit of a wobble (not wanting to get dressed or put his shoes on), he had got it all together and peaked with a perfect ring bearer performance!

I'd rather foolishly promised L-kun the biggest ice-cream he'd ever had earlier in the day... but now I really wanted to give him a giant treat!

So, with a quick re-adjustment of the rings, before you knew it, they were firmly affixed upon the respective fingers. I am sure that S-chan breathed a silent (internal) sigh of relief. At last.

And with that, the ceremony now felt like it had reached the "official" level... but there was still much more to come.

And one very important thing was missing.... but that will have to wait... till the next post.

A Tokyo Wedding... Pt 3 The Reception Begins

Following the wedding ceremony, of course is the reception, or kekkon hiroen. So, we quickly make our way to the tables, and await the bride and groom... The one thing that you quickly realise about Japanese weddings is that they love the GRAND ENTRANCE... and indeed it's a great feeling to see the newly married couple arrive at the reception for the first time. I'm sure they were so happy (and I'm sure just a little nervous still).

H-kun's parents watched on with great pride...

Okaasan

And perhaps some sense of the passage of life, as a new chapter in their son's life begins..

Otousan

There are typically lots of speeches at wedding receptions - but the best one is the kanpai! speech (kanpai means cheers... sort of)... and the raising of glasses to the newly married couple. It's an important part of any wedding, and I'm sure one that's a nerve-wracking experience for the person giving it. How much to say?.... What stories to tell... How embarrassing can it be (it's not really supposed to be though). The main thing is this... to introduce the kanpai!... a part that I enjoyed very much (*hic*)... possibly why I took so many photos that didn't turn out...

The kampai speech

H-kun however looks like all the right things are being said... so mission success.

Through the guests, the beautiful bride looks on... It's an odd thing, but the immediate family tables tend to be at the back (or at least from my experience), so you don't necessarily get the best view. Having a long lens can help, however...

S-chan takes a moment to reflect. It's been a long road to this moment, but finally it's here.

Kanpai!... 

And finally they can start to relax a little.

And enjoy the exuberance of being in love... weddings are such great days, but you can easily forget how much hard work went into it.

Here's a look at the head-piece from behind. It's a lot of work to get ready for a Japanese wedding - and often this can take several hours for the kimono/hair... but perhaps that's normal for weddings, wherever you are.

A very happy husband. Well done, H-kun!

Here's a photo of the family... a little blurred...one of the problems with a camera that tends to focus on the closest thing. Actually the wedding really did highlight to me the difference between a DSLR and a point and shoot camera. Unfortunately, I've still got years of P&S training to overcome.

The brides family... 

The bride and groom depart!... for the time being.

(Note - due to some major Blogger problems, these posts have been quite delayed. I hope their problems have been resolved... and it's just reminded me on how we become dependent on such services. It's both the power and vulnerability of the modern digital age)